10 Habits To Be Happy Together

Over time,  monotony tends to settle in the couple’s life and, little by little, boredom can gain ground. However, despite not being an easy task, it is possible to live a happy life together. The secret lies in the couple’s desire to remain together and to be truly happy, establishing their relationship as an undisputed priority.

Put like that, it sounds simple, doesn’t it? But how to achieve this? How can we make the couple’s relationship our priority, having to occupy ourselves with work, children, grandparents, the house, bills and being well with friends and family, among other things?

Psychiatrist and consultant Mark Goulston, author of the book “How to Get and Keep the Love You Deserve” , says that the key is to identify and cultivate the habits that foster happiness in the couple. According to Goulston, “a habit is a behavior that you automatically repeat until you have to make little effort to maintain it . ” Therefore, all couples can adopt them, simply by dedicating a little time and interest. Soon it will be something natural, which will facilitate many other things.

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According to Mark Goulston, the habits that characterize happy couples are as follows:

1. Lie down at the same time. This, which is quite common in early life as a couple, tends to disappear over time. According to Goulston, it is necessary to maintain this custom to keep the flame of desire burning.

2. Cultivate common interests. Once the initial crush is past, many couples find they have little in common. For that reason, they need to find something they can do together, something to get involved in. This doesn’t mean they should do everything together; it is enough to find something that interests both of them, without ceasing to have other interests of its own.

3. Walking hand in hand. It is a simple and common gesture at the beginning of a relationship, but which, over time, is lost. Have you noticed how lovely it is to see an elderly couple, walking hand in hand?

4. Trust and forgive. Arguing in pairs is normal, but it is necessary to know how to properly manage the conflicts that will arise. If there is mutual trust and forgiveness without grudges, it is much easier to manage these conflicts and grow as a couple.

5. Focus on the positive. Focusing on the other’s positive qualities, rather than focusing on their faults, is the key to staying in love. Nobody is perfect, but, as Goulson says, “it all depends on what you want to look for”.

6. Hug. According to Goulston, “our skin has a memory of ‘good caresses’ (love), ‘bad caresses’ (abuse) and ‘no caresses’ (carelessness)” . Couples who greet each other with a hug keep their skin bathed in ‘good caresses’”. You don’t need a reason to hug.

7. Say “I love you” and “have a nice day” every morning. These words are a spur to start the day right and help to cut down on any harshness that has arisen.

8. Say “good night”. With this simple desire, the couple reaffirms their relationship each night, despite the difficulties and emotional ups and downs of the day. According to Goulston, “It tells your partner that you still want to be in the relationship, and that what you both have is bigger than any troubling incident.”

9. Call or send a message during the day. This demonstrates a concern for the other. It’s a routine call to see if everything is ok, to stay connected.

10. Feel proud of showing yourself as a couple. This is as simple as kissing, touching, hugging in public, showing complicity and staying together.