Learn To Let Go, To Allow Yourself To Receive

Sometimes letting go is not necessarily a sacrifice or a goodbye, but a “thank you” for everything we’ve learned. It is letting go of what no longer supports itself in order to allow ourselves to be more free and authentic, and then receive what has to come.

If we think about it for a moment, we’ll see that the best decisions, those followed by a state of grateful happiness, just imply having to let go of something. It can be fear, anguish, drawing a distance from a place or even from a certain person. Renunciation is part of the process of life. It is a natural thing, because we are all forced to choose what and in whom to invest our time and effort.

A fact to consider is that the act of letting go, by itself, does not only imply severing those ties that place limits on personal growth and happiness. Letting go means, in certain cases, having to let go and rethink many of one’s own psychological concepts, such as the ego, resentment, or even the fear of loneliness.

Because whoever wants to receive must have his heart prepared to receive that nobility that does not understand selfishness or inner storms.

Ambition and the need to accumulate

In today’s society we associate the achievement of certain things with the idea of ​​happiness. “I’ll be happy when I take this trip, when I have a boyfriend, when I have my own house, when I have a pay raise, when I have a new car, a new cell phone, when I lose a few pounds, when the new season of my favorite series opens…”

We buy books and more books to learn to be happy, while we wait for something to change, while we wait that at some point everything that has been accumulated gives us the answer we hope for. Frédéric Beigbeder, a famous French writer, creative and publicist, said that in the world of advertising, nobody wants people to be happy. Simply because happy people “don’t consume”.

Happiness is something that modern societies sell us as an “illusion”, something that must be brief and ephemeral to force us to consume more. Hence the “planned obsolescence” of electronic devices, hence the idea that to be happy you have to be attractive and wear certain clothes, have lots of friends, and find the ideal love on the contact pages, where relationships can start today and end tomorrow with just one “click”.

We create a world where values ​​such as ambition and pathological nonconformity completely distance us from the true meaning of happiness. We live attentive to what we lack, without realizing everything that we actually have. All that we should let go of to balance the balance, to be ourselves.

To be happy you need to make decisions and… let go

Life is too short to live permanently frustrated. Therefore, and if we really want to be happy, we need to be able to make decisions, to know what and in whom we want to invest our own time. But, as you can already imagine, deciding often implies having to resign, an exercise that needs to be done consciously and maturely, taking the consequences.

To help you in the complex path of renunciation and the art of letting go, it is worth remembering that for Buddhist philosophy happiness is nothing more than a state of mind of calm and well-being. Therefore, pay attention calmly and wisely to everything around you to feel what offers you serenity and what brings noise, what and who nourishes your soul with respect and what or who brings you storms on clear days. Decide, choose, trust your instinct and just let go.

Another thing to remember is that whoever has the courage to let go must also be worthy to receive. Therefore, it is worth reflecting on these ideas for a moment:

• It is necessary to renounce the need to always have control over others. It is necessary to “be” and “allow to be”. Those who complain about personal freedom to grow need to be able, in turn, to be able to offer it.
• Renounce the need to always be right. Accepting the error is growing and knowing how to keep silent when the moment requires it is a gesture of wisdom.
• Let go of your ego, free yourself from the need to impress, to have to compete, to demand attention when no one is watching you, to look for any false company when you are afraid of loneliness. Let go of your fear to allow yourself to be true, to be yourself, that person who is both capable of giving and receiving.

In conclusion, in this complex but fascinating daily struggle to be happy, we should all practice the healthy exercise of letting go of what weighs on us, loving what we already have and being grateful for all that is good, which is undoubtedly to come.