Fear Will Never Go Away As It Grows Up

The assertion that fear will never go away can cause our hearts to start beating faster and us to notice a degree of anxiety. It’s something natural, or rather understandable. The society we grew up in taught us to escape fear, not face it. Above all, it educated us to prevent it even when we don’t know if it will manifest or not.

That emotion that we usually label as “bad” is always with us. As much as we want and try to avoid it, it is impossible to live without it, as it plays a vital role in our survival. Thanks to fear, we put ourselves on the alert to face a problem.

Millennia ago, this was very useful if we faced real danger. Nowadays, we lead very peaceful lives and our fears have changed. However, they have done it in such a way that they are no longer adaptive. That is, they rarely appear in a situation where we are really at risk.

Is our life in real danger when we have to expose something in public? Are we going to die if our partner leaves us? The fears that arise in these situations are maladaptive. They are not real fears. We are not at risk. Therefore, this emotion stops helping us and starts limiting us.

Our fears have changed, but there is something that remains the same. They always encourage us to act, not to sit still and change course. However, nowadays, we allow fear to paralyze us. This, millennia ago, would have led to our death.

Changes allow us to grow

Fear will never disappear because there will always be changes in our lives, whether they are wanted or not. For example, when we try to start our own business, we are afraid that we will not succeed, that we will not get results, that we will fail, or that others will laugh at our mistakes. But that’s good because, whatever happens, we will be progressing and growing.

The big problem comes when we take refuge behind fear and don’t want to face it. That’s when we stay in our comfort zone, not taking risks and not daring in anything that doesn’t give us security. This, over time, will make us feel stagnant, aimless. We assume what can happen, although in reality we don’t know if it will. Preoccupied with these thoughts, we stand still, doing nothing, as hours, days, and years go by.

The comfort zone, we must recognize, is very safe and we feel very good in it. But at the same time, it’s very disabling. So much so that, if it were a garden, nothing would grow in it. The reason it is so tempting is because it has the power to make us feel good and bad at the same time. In it we are safe and peaceful. However, at the same time, we feel like we are wasting our hours and missing out on too many opportunities.

People who panic about change often envy those who take risks and constantly leave their comfort zone. Something inside her screams “do something!” or “you too have dreams and wishes, fulfill them!”. For a moment, they may feel a certain impulse and fantasize about acting,  but when they do, they just sit around and do nothing.

Fear will never go away, but we can use it to our advantage

Even if we try to run away, the fear will never go away. There will always be a situation that will surprise us and completely disrupt our routine. That’s when our comfort zone will be shaken; and this is an opportunity to make a decision. Since fear will never go away, what better advantage than using it to our advantage?

To achieve this, let’s give you two little tips. Although they may seem easy, at the moment of truth, we don’t usually put them into practice. However, if we want to end these very limiting fears, using them as they appear can give us a different result than we are used to.

• If fear limits you, don’t think, act. When that emotion prevents you, for example, from speaking in public, you need to stop thinking about it. Your mind is very powerful. Block out these thoughts and simply act without thinking. After doing this, you will notice how the fear goes away.
• Use fear as a source of resilience. If something frightens you, use that emotion to propel you. If you’re afraid to start your own business, use that fear to try to learn more and move toward opportunities that make you feel secure. For example, talk to people who can help you, get partners…

Fear will never go away, so it’s best to use it as an ally. Even in the most difficult moments, this emotion can go down very well for us to change course and realize that there are multiple options. We must remember that if we move forward and grow, fear will be there. However, we can start using it not to stop but to continue.