Sometimes I Like Someone To Tell Me That Everything Will Work Out

I am a strong person, one that life has bitten more than once. However, I like someone to hold my hand every now and then and tell me everything will be fine. I like to be told that there is a lot to do and little to worry about. Feeling that need is not a weakness, but the courage of someone who appreciates support and comfort when needed.

Antoine de Saint-Exupery rightly said that failure strengthens the strong.  This is for a very simple reason: to acquire adequate strength and build the foundations of courage, one must first have fallen. First, one must feel the wound of disappointment, the emptiness of loss and/or the mark of error on one’s own skin.

That way, and since this type of profile is a great understanding of how to repair these internal cracks, only strong people understand what it means to receive from time to time a word of hope and a helping hand that offers to lift you up. In a world that turns its back, any support is valid.  In a time of difficulty, even the best of heroes and the brightest of heroines thanks someone who says everything will work out. .. because if there’s one thing important in life, it’s faith.

A secret need: emotional hunger

As early as 1920, Edward Throndike understood emotional intelligence as an “ability to understand people by helping them to act wisely in their relationships”. What’s more, he also said that if there was a dimension that usually characterizes the human being, that dimension would be “emotional hunger”. We all sometimes need more support than we receive, more consideration than we are given, more recognition and even – why not? – of a more present, more tangible affection.

However, if there is one thing that most self-help books recommend to us, it is to learn to “self-supply”. That is, we must put into practice adequate strategies to develop good self-love, a resistant self-esteem and a strong personality with which to do well in any difficulty. If it is true that all of this is positive and even recommendable, there is an aspect that should be made clear.

A person who invests in his own personal growth and psychological strengths should not fall into the trap of practicing such an aggressive “self-reliance” in which he no longer needs any other person. Because sometimes those who don’t need anything don’t offer anything either, and almost without realizing it ends up practicing true emotional materialism.

Everything will be alright, trust me

We all need someone at some point in our lives to hold our hands and tell us that everything is going to be all right. There are times when self-confidence is not enough, when good self-esteem does not guarantee success, a solution or a happy ending. There are occasional moments when nothing is as cathartic as sharing the weight, diminishing the strength of fears and the worms of worry.

It is known, for example, that those doctors who hold their patients’ hands and transmit positive, comforting and hopeful messages manage to reduce patients’ fear and anxiety. At the same time, few tranquilizers are as comforting as that father or mother capable of dispelling their children’s worries, inviting them to believe that everything will be all right.

There are times, and this happens to everyone, when the brain becomes blurred and mental darkness appears. Because negative thoughts have the bad habit of being resistant, of being like the tin that establishes negativity with suffering, uncertainty with chaos.

At such times, a helping hand, a clear mind, and a willing heart can work miracles. Because not all paths to healing can be walked in solitude, because even though we have learned to be self-reliant, no one is free to go through dark, fallible, and weak moments.

When someone tells us that everything is going to work out, it helps. When someone reminds us that in life everything comes and goes, it alleviates. When someone holds our hand and promises us that they will be with us no matter what happens, it gives us tranquility and a lot of calm. We must learn, then, to accept help, to be humble, and to allow ourselves to receive what others willingly give us. Above all, let us be able to also offer others the best of ourselves in order to create more receptive, stronger and healthier environments from an emotional point of view.